7 Powerful Scriptures To Pray For Your Family

Sadly we live in a world consumed with hatred, danger and trials; therefore, for me daily prayer for my family is essential.

I have experienced scripture to be full of wonderful passages to recite when praying not only for safety for your family, but also in times where there is a need for unity, wisdom, patience and understanding.

Here are a few for you to consider:

1. Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom; teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord. – Colossians 3:16

2. Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.– 1 Corinthians 13:4-8

3. And as you wish that others would do to you, do so to them. -Luke 6:31

4. The Lord watch between you and me, when we are out of one another’s sight.– Genesis 31:49

5. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate. – Mark 10:9

6. You, LORD, hear the desire of the afflicted; you encourage them, and you listen to their cry.– Psalm 10:17

7.The Lord bless you and keep you, the Lord make his face shine upon you and be gracious to you, the Lord turn his face toward you and give you peace. – Numbers 6:24-26

Blessings To You This Day,

Memories-For-Tomorrow

How To Break Down Barriers With Your Smile

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With so much talk in our country about putting up walls, it reminded me of how effective a smile can be in tearing them down.

There have been countless times where I have walked towards someone in passing when both of us have locked eyes and neither of us crack a smile.

Now to be fair there can be many reasons for this.

We’ve all been there , those occasions when you look at a person but are looking straight through them because you’ve got other things on your mind.  At that very moment, it dawns on you that in rushing out the door for work, you may not have turned the kettle off on the stove.  Your face is not smiling, whose thinking of that, in your mind, you’re imagining the worst and contemplating whether you should turn back towards home or not.

Or maybe you just ended a heated phone conversation with your husband, wife or significant other and your mind is still stuck on mad, therefore, smiling is the last thing you care to do.

Excluding the moments when your present but not present there are plenty of opportunities when smiling, can be most effective in breaking down barriers.

My daughters when they were younger told me numerous times that their friends said I “looked mean”.  Now that’s me in the picture above and I don’t think I look mean at all so I was confused at the time why their friends thought that.

UNTIL I realized that my face in it’s resting state did indeed look mean!  When I am working on a project, cooking or doing something around the house, I can really be in a zone and focused and therefore what their friends often saw was my resting face.  Once I realized that I had to:

  1. Practice the art of intentionally smiling when I was in the presence of other people. 

This is the first step for those of us, who when around others smiling just does not come naturally.  You’ve been around people like this, they have that disconcerting look that gives off the vibes of being uninterested, unhappy and unapproachable.

Friends THIS WAS ME, this is exactly how I appeared to my daughter’s friends when they were around me!

Trust me when you are not used to smiling and you start intentional smiling in the presence of others, you might feel silly or awkward.  But you must push through it and quiet the voices in your head that tell you that you look like a complete IDIOT for grinning aimlessly.  Take it from experience it gets easier and the pay off is worth it.

Other times I found myself not smiling at strangers as I thought THEY appeared disinterested. Can you imagine me the person with the mean resting face being the accuser of her brethren!  So I had to:

      2.  Stop assuming or caring if people aren’t going to appreciate or accept the smile.

It happens, you walk up to the entrance of a travel gas station when the door swings open and there he is standing tall and stout in front of you the person who in your mind is the most intimidating person you have ever come face-to-face with, the Harley Davison biker of the year.  You both lock eyes and in a split second your decision is made “you smile and say hello, how are you”? An to your surprise in return he steps back holds the door open for you and SMILES!

You reply with an exuberant “thank you and have a nice day” in which he replies “you too ma’am”. Wow, what an exchange.  Now imagine me walking up and greeting him my former “mean” resting face.  I imagine it would not have been the same pleasant exchange.

Smiling breaks down barriers because you appear friendlier and approachable, opening up opportunities for you to meet and talk to people and remove perceived stereotypes and labels you’ve placed on others and vice versa.

3.  Smile, and eliminate others perception of you as uncaring, preoccupied, unapproachable or disinterested… smiling is contagious. 

Dare I try to recount the numerous occasions where I have smiled at someone who doesn’t look interested in receiving it.  I am pleased to report that 99 percent of the time, my smile is reciprocated with a smile in return.  On many occasions, some have responded by saying “you have a beautiful smile”!

At that very moment, the barrier has been broken, a dialogue has now started.  In some instances the smile that generated, the impromptu conversation has provided me the opportunity to pray for someone, give assistance to someone who was seeking out a friendly face, or turned into a lasting friendship.

If you haven’t considered it, try it today and watch what barriers you break down by just simply smiling.

We shall never know all the good that a simple smile can do – Mother Teresa 

 

 

 

 

Love Cliches…Truth or Lies

If Love Is Blind (3)We’ve all heard them and have possibly said them to a friend or to ourselves when we’re trying to make sense out of a love situation.  LOVE CLICHES…have you ever heard one and thought nothing could be truer?

But is there really truth in these gems or misleading lies or myths?    I remember in elementary school learning about Greek mythology and somehow during that process, I failed to learn the meaning of MYTH-ology.  Because I went around for a very long time believing Zeus, the king of the Greek gods was real.

Are love cliches myths, and like me believing in Zeus a widely held but false belief or idea?  I thought it would be interesting to examine some of the most popular ones closely to discover if we have been misled.


ABSENCE MAKES THE HEART GROW FONDER
This would be true if both want the same things in the relationship.  Otherwise, being apart might give one or both parties the time and space to realize that they are not ready for a committed relationship or couldn’t be any more different and not right for one another.

THERE ARE PLENTY FISH IN THE SEA
Isn’t this what is typically said to or by someone who is going through a break-up or been rejected? Yes, there is plenty of fish in the sea along with plenty of pollutants and toxins that become apart of those fish. My point here is one should move forward with caution when thinking about jumping into another relationship.

LOVES COMES WHEN YOU LEAST EXPECT IT
I understand this completely and can see the truth in it.  BUT, as a woman of faith, I would add to this cliche…UNLESS YOU ARE YOU PRAYING FOR IT, THEN YOU CAN EXPECT IT!

LOVE MEANS NEVER TO SAY YOU ARE SORRY
I think this can be the biggest letdown cliche of them all.  My understanding of this is that in a relationship you are going to always get it right and never make a mistake therefore if you love someone you shouldn’t ever have to say you’re sorry. I have been married for many years and my husband and I love each other dearly and have made many, many mistakes some small, big, huge and gigantic but nevertheless, mistakes that warranted an apology.

Imagine my husband who loves me dearly failing to put down the toilet seat after I have repeatedly asked him to do so,.   In the dark in the middle of the night, I make my way to the restroom and down I go unexpectedly plummeting into the gaping hole…someone needs to apologize and put forth a better effort.

LOVE IS BLIND
Hmm, blind to what, all the red flags that were flying around prior to making a commitment? We all know someone who has walked straight into a bad relationship with eyes wide open. Love shouldn’t be the premise to turn a blind eye to the dysfunction going on in a relationship.

IF YOU CAN’T LOVE ME AT MY WORST, YOU DON’T DESERVE ME AT MY BEST
This one had me a bit confused at first but after some thought the scenario that I came up with was; someone in the relationship went through a rough time and the other person left them dealing with the issue alone.   The person struggling overcame and now doing well the other party is all in again. Or could it be that the worst was really bad and the other person had to love them from afar?

This cliche is complicated, to say the least, more specific details of the situation would be needed to assess this cliche better.

LOVE HURTS
No, no I don’t think it should.  Maybe if I understood the history behind this cliche it would make better sense to me.

WHEN IT”S REAL YOU’ll JUST KNOW IT
The last time I checked the divorce rate in the good old USA it was upwards of  50 percent.  Therefore, to say that we should go into a relationship based on pure human intuition is risky, to say the least.

These are just a few relationship cliches that I’ve heard throughout the years. It can be easy to live by them and not really consider the underlying meanings.

QUESTION OF THE DAY?

What are some of your favorite cliches and have you found them to be helpful?

 

 

 

 

Come and see…My Blogs New Look!

If you are here visiting my page for the first time then this blog post more than likely is irrelevant to you, BUT…WELCOME!  I am so pleased when newcomers come to my website.  I would love for you to stick around, read some of my blog posts, and click the like and follow button in order to continue along on my journey.

MOMENT OF TRUTH…

I get really excited when someone has decided to click the like button on one of my blog posts and take that next step and follow me.  Trust me when it happens I’m smiling and or possibly screaming “WOO HOO!” with hands in the air.  It’s just the affirmation I need that this is all not in vain.


Now for those of you who have been here before, THANK YOU for coming back!  You will notice that my website looks a bit different and I really hope you like the new look.

ANOTHER MOMENT OF TRUTH…

I  really didn’t like the look of my old website and couldn’t wait to change it.   To me, the home page appeared a bit busy and every time I viewed it, I just wasn’t satisfied.

The procrastination of me not changing it sooner is due to there being so many different themes to pick from…uh.

Every time I tried to pick something new I would just get overwhelmed and put it off another day.  However, I kept thinking to myself if I don’t like the way my website looks then why should I expect others to.  So this time around I was determined to choose one and so I decided on this format.

I do hope you all like the change because not only does it need to be pleasing to me I believe it’s important for my readers to like it as well.

As always I would appreciate your feedback, please let me know what you think in the comment section below.

Sincerely,
Memories For Tomorrow

 

 

Married With No Valentine

 

Twenty-eight years ago on Feb. 14th hanging out in my college dormitory, I waited patiently for my Valentines gift. I sat in my dormitory lounge with eagerness anticipating my gift to arrive at any moment. There I was smiling and nodding with approval watching girls one after another receive their flowers, candy, cards and other trinkets from their boyfriends.

But as it grew later and later in the day, there was still nothing for me. My excitement gradually turned into confusion, nervousness, embarrassment, and frustration as it was becoming my reality that the most kind, gentle and loving boyfriend that any girl could ask for did not plan for me to receive anything on VALENTINES DAY!

You see this was to be our very first time celebrating Valentines Day as a couple and I was sure he was going to come through with a BANG! In fact, I was confident that his display of affection was going to make all the other girls on campus a wee bit envious that he was my Valentine!

In my dorm room as I settled into bed for the evening the phone rang. I jumped up out of my bed and ran to the phone, expecting it to be the front desk employee calling to tell me that because of all the orders that day, the courier was behind on his deliveries and he had just delivered my flowers!

BUT IT WASN’T…

In fact, it was my boyfriend on the other end of that phone. My guy was a college athlete and was away traveling for a game. HOWEVER, he was also very smart and I knew he knew how much I was looking forward to Valentine’s Day and that I had no question in my mind that he would have planned everything out perfectly before he departed.

I said hello, and he asked me how my day was and proceeded to tell me that he missed me. As I was gritting my teeth behind my tightly closed lips I replied with not much more than a “un, huh and yeah ok.” Sensing something was wrong he asked me was there something the matter? WAS THERE SOMETHING THE MATTERdid he really forget what that day was?

The flood gate was now opened, he asked, and boy was I going to tell him! I went on for about ten minutes without taking time to breathe to tell him what a selfish, inconsiderate, unloving boyfriend he was and that I was foolish for thinking he was the one! Well, I felt satisfied that he knew how I felt and because I was confident in his love for me expected him to respond with the most empathetic apology any human on earth had ever given.

BUT HE DIDN’T…

My boyfriend with a soft, patient and I’m sure looking back somewhat hurt voice said: “ok honey I’ll talk to you tomorrow.”

Tomorrow! Oh, I was so angry I slammed the phone receiver down without a reply furious that he didn’t even respond to my rant the way I expected!

Tomorrow came and so did my flowers! The most beautiful flowers, two dozen yellow roses accompanied with Happy Valentine’s balloons that read I Love You on the front. You see my boyfriend had planned for me to get flowers delivered on Valentine’s Day but they had been delivered to the wrong location the day prior.

Oh what a tangled mess I had woven myself into, yes I felt awful, didn’t I just kinda but not really just break up with my boyfriend the night before? I knew I had to apologize to him and was concerned that he’d not forgive me.

…well you can imagine how that story ended as I have been married to that same loving guy for the past 26 years.

Obviously, I was forgiven back then but he was hurt that day. Hurt that I had placed so much value and based the sincerity of his love for me upon receiving material things. You see he helped me to understand that the love he shows me every day far surpasses the chocolates or flowers he can buy me on one day.

After that episode, we agreed back then to move forward in our relationship never placing so much emphasis on Valentine’s Day.

Therefore, I have not again ever received a gift from my husband on Valentine’s Day.

Do I receive flowers and presents throughout the year from this man, of course, I do! But the most valuable and irreplaceable gift he gives is the undying affection, love, and appreciation that he shows me each and every day.

 

Raindrops On Foggy Glasses

As  I was sitting in a two-hour seminar one evening, it was there when after listening to the speaker for an hour my thoughts drifted and I started to think about raindrops on foggy glasses.

You see, I recalled a time when my daughter came back into our house from walking her dog one cold stormy morning.  She came into my bedroom still dressed in her outerwear, sat on the side of my bed while I was in the bathroom and proceeded to talk to me as I continued to look straight into my bathroom mirror washing my face.

Her tone was somewhat monotone and after a few minutes passed,  I turned to give her my full attention, and as my eyes locked eyes with hers, I immediately erupted into uncontrollable laughter. You see my daughter’s glasses had fogged up when she came back into the house and all I could see were two teeny tiny pupils surrounded by white foggy residue on her spectacles peering back at me.  The condensation from her raindrops on foggy glasses distorted her appearance causing her to look pretty ridiculous in my opinion.

You can imagine the confused and dazed look my daughter gave me as I tried to explain and apologize for rudely interrupting her, all the while still laughing.   I quickly grabbed my makeup palette with a mirror attached and turned it towards her so that she could see for herself what I found so amusing.  My daughter briefly chuckled, shrugged and said: “Oh yeah, funny”.

I got to thinking though, isn’t that like life sometimes?  Have you ever tried to look through a pair of foggy glasses or fog on a car windshield?  It’s hard to see things ahead, isn’t it?  Sometimes rain comes and fog appears out of nowhere and it gets frustrating as you attempt to try and wipe away the condensation to make heads or tails as to what is in front of you.

Trials and difficulties can be that way; they can come and obstruct your view making it sometimes difficult to see how to move forward.  But unlike my daughter, I saw the change and it stirred up and uncontrollable reaction, my demeanor changed and I lost focus of what was at hand.  However, my daughter was not oblivious to the change in her current condition but also was not moved by the temporary interference, realizing that it soon would pass.

We all will have experienced our share of trials, difficulties, and disappointments at some point, possibly struggling, stumbling and attempting to wipe away the obstructions in our paths.

Nevertheless, like my daughter wearing her raindrops on foggy glasses, we can be at peace knowing that eventually, the rain will pass and the fog will fade, allowing a clearer view as it was before.

 

Blogging Anxiety…The 3 Triggers You Want To Avoid

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If you’re new here on my blog you may not know that my purpose on my platform is to encourage and motivate others in every aspect of their life.  All while staying positive and creating their best memories for tomorrow.

Therefore being a motivational blogger, anxiety is a topic that maybe I should not know a lot about, right?  Because one might conclude that in motivating others to live their best life, I should have it all figured out, and maybe not have a lot to share on this topic.

Well, for me in the beginning, something that I found so much joy in at first, quickly turned into me stressing about the do’s and don’ts of what I was doing. I became obsessed with several technical aspects of blogging.   Is my format right, was my title intriguing, is the heading perfect, was my content interesting, etc? Fortunately, it wasn’t very long before I recognized that what I was doing to myself wasn’t necessarily productive and that I was losing sight of my initial and primary purpose in writing.

I was on a fast track of taking the joy out of my blogging experience and turning it into a race for time to make my blog an overnight success.  Which in turn created a lot of anxiety for me.

In all fairness, I believe no matter how positive your outlook is on life,  it is human nature that at one point you may feel eager or slightly worried that despite all your efforts, your blog is not growing and possibly no one cares. But becomes an issue when you stay lingering in that stressful mental space for too long.

When I started writing I wanted to write-sharing what was on my mind, promoting positivity, motivating others and building a community with others and vice versa.  No anxiety, no second-guessing my purpose, just simply joy, and freedom of expression.

Well shortly after came along:

  • The first trigger –  Looking at the number of followers that other bloggers have.  

Do yourself a favor and don’t do this, because once I started paying attention to how many followers other bloggers had; and that it was in the hundreds, even thousands I immediately started to feel ANXIETY.   In the beginning, there I sat, a blogger for six full days and only nine FOLLOWERS! And two of those were family members.

Remember I started out excited to have a platform to write and share and encourage, I was floating on the clouds only five days earlier.  What was it about seeing those high following counts that made me feel like I was failing?  I mean who was I failing, certainly not my nine followers they had vested interest, they were on board!


  • Second trigger: Binging on posts, articles, and videos about the “how to’s” of blogging  (a huge one for me)

There is absolutely nothing wrong with educating yourself on how to be a better blogger in every way imaginable.  I actually think it’s important to do this. However, please be prepared to experience information overload.

The internet is full of awesome and beneficial information about starting a blog and transforming it into being lucrative or whatever you imagine it to be.  But trust me, you will want to take your time as you dive into this sea of information.

If not, you may fall into the trap like me, and start to feel unqualified, defeated and a bit of ANXIETY.  Consequently slipping into the self-destructive mode of saying to yourself, I need to implement everything now, no more wasting time sleeping, everybody is doing this already what are you waiting for…I’m so behind!


  • Third trigger:  Looking at my stats A LOT! 

Honestly, it was exciting to check out this feature with its bar graphs and different cells of information.  Nevertheless, I found myself looking at it every few minutes for the first 2 weeks into blogging.  If I posted something, a few minutes later I was wide-eyed eagerly visiting my stats to see what kind of traffic I was getting.  If I wasn’t getting any, you guessed it…ANXIETY crept in. Followed up with the thought that I was already failing.


Of course it’s important to see and experience growth; however, take your time and enjoy each moment of your experience no matter how slow or fast the pace.

I have had to remind myself of this throughout my blogging journey.  Building relationships with others who eventually will become followers who look forward to reading your content will TAKE TIME. 

Anxiety affects the way you think, feel and behave and it’s important to recognize the negative impacts it plays on your blogging experience early on so that you can avoid feeling defeated, discouraged or the urge to quit.

Yes, making the necessary changes to experience growth is important, but not in exchange for unsettling anxiety.  I recognized early on that the three triggers listed above led to my anxiety in blogging and therefore was able to change my tactics and successfully was able to release the anxiety and start blogging with freedom and joy all over again.