We’ve all heard them and have possibly said them to a friend or to ourselves when we’re trying to make sense out of a love situation. LOVE CLICHES…have you ever heard one and thought nothing could be truer?
But is there really truth in these gems or misleading lies or myths? I remember in elementary school learning about Greek mythology and somehow during that process, I failed to learn the meaning of MYTH-ology. Because I went around for a very long time believing Zeus, the king of the Greek gods was real.
Are love cliches myths, and like me believing in Zeus a widely held but false belief or idea? I thought it would be interesting to examine some of the most popular ones closely to discover if we have been misled.
ABSENCE MAKES THE HEART GROW FONDER
This would be true if both want the same things in the relationship. Otherwise, being apart might give one or both parties the time and space to realize that they are not ready for a committed relationship or couldn’t be any more different and not right for one another.
THERE ARE PLENTY FISH IN THE SEA
Isn’t this what is typically said to or by someone who is going through a break-up or been rejected? Yes, there is plenty of fish in the sea along with plenty of pollutants and toxins that become apart of those fish. My point here is one should move forward with caution when thinking about jumping into another relationship.
LOVES COMES WHEN YOU LEAST EXPECT IT
I understand this completely and can see the truth in it. BUT, as a woman of faith, I would add to this cliche…UNLESS YOU ARE YOU PRAYING FOR IT, THEN YOU CAN EXPECT IT!
LOVE MEANS NEVER TO SAY YOU ARE SORRY
I think this can be the biggest letdown cliche of them all. My understanding of this is that in a relationship you are going to always get it right and never make a mistake therefore if you love someone you shouldn’t ever have to say you’re sorry. I have been married for many years and my husband and I love each other dearly and have made many, many mistakes some small, big, huge and gigantic but nevertheless, mistakes that warranted an apology.
Imagine my husband who loves me dearly failing to put down the toilet seat after I have repeatedly asked him to do so,. In the dark in the middle of the night, I make my way to the restroom and down I go unexpectedly plummeting into the gaping hole…someone needs to apologize and put forth a better effort.
LOVE IS BLIND
Hmm, blind to what, all the red flags that were flying around prior to making a commitment? We all know someone who has walked straight into a bad relationship with eyes wide open. Love shouldn’t be the premise to turn a blind eye to the dysfunction going on in a relationship.
IF YOU CAN’T LOVE ME AT MY WORST, YOU DON’T DESERVE ME AT MY BEST
This one had me a bit confused at first but after some thought the scenario that I came up with was; someone in the relationship went through a rough time and the other person left them dealing with the issue alone. The person struggling overcame and now doing well the other party is all in again. Or could it be that the worst was really bad and the other person had to love them from afar?
This cliche is complicated, to say the least, more specific details of the situation would be needed to assess this cliche better.
No, no I don’t think it should. Maybe if I understood the history behind this cliche it would make better sense to me.
WHEN IT”S REAL YOU’ll JUST KNOW IT
The last time I checked the divorce rate in the good old USA it was upwards of 50 percent. Therefore, to say that we should go into a relationship based on pure human intuition is risky, to say the least.
These are just a few relationship cliches that I’ve heard throughout the years. It can be easy to live by them and not really consider the underlying meanings.
QUESTION OF THE DAY?
What are some of your favorite cliches and have you found them to be helpful?